Welcome to the Controversial Zone where Janelle makes an outrageous statement just to be controversial. The most successful comments have been those which involve rash comments about the opposite sex and as I always say...when you find a winner stick with it. So with all that in mind here it is...Guys never say what they really mean...they think we're the ones who are confusing...well if guys were clearer relationships would be a lot easier because us girls wouldn't have to mess around having conversations with each other trying to identify what it is that they're trying to get across. Mostly I think that they are too scared to actually say what they really want out of fear of not getting it so they play their little head games where they tell you what they think you want to hear. I personally would more appreciate honesty, even if it was "Hi, listen I'm just messaging you everyday and telling you you're pretty because I'm in the mood for some action and I thought I might be able to trick you into believing that I actually care about you just so you'll help me out." I would have a lot more respect for guys if they were clearer about their intentions.
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If someone's trying to put one over on you then it's not like they're going to be honest about it.
How about asking yourself about the level of character you expect from any young man, in order to have the privilege of your valuable time and attention. If they don't measure up, shrug them off and move on.
Of course, we all know that you're actually loving the attention, which is the reason that you don't get rid of the losers even when you know that they aren't worth it in the long run.
janelle u always seem to amaze me with the amount of crap u talk. u can't tell me i don't tell ya what i think i tell ya straight up, and if u think different, your wrong.And when the day comes around that u can actually tell me u tell guys exactly how u feel like ur amazing example u gave, then i'll take ya post serious.
it is easier when they are clear about their intentions ;)
it's also pretty important to not assume things - mind you that can be hard particularly when actions are loud and clear and not accompanied by words.
(Bec whom you met at ESA)
It would of course make the world much easier. However, why are you hanging around with boys who are only interested in " a good time" or one thing, however you want to put it. Your so much better than loser boys like that.
point number two, of course it would make the world easier, but i happen to quite enjoy our girlie chats trying to decode what the males in our life are trying to tell us.
what else would we talk about otherwise???
hehe
carris...
There are 3 types of guys in this world; the Player, the Jerk and the Nice Guy.
1. The Player
The Player at first seems like Mr Perfect. He does everything right. He calls you, he tells you how beautiful you are and he makes you feel special. Yeah, you and about five other girls! You're not special girls when you're dealing with the player. The Player is the worst of the lot because he makes you think you're special when really he just wants...sex. The Player is a hunter and you can be sure he spotted you a mile away. So don't be so naive!
2. The Jerk
The 'Jerk' doesn't play any games. He's straight to the point and doesn't mess around because he knows what he wants...you guessed it - sex. That's all he's after girls. The difference between the Player and the Jerk is that the Jerk is upfront about his intentions and its your choice whether to go through with it or not.
3. The Nice Guy
Yes, he exists. You just gotta find him. This means NO hanging around any players or jerks! Have more faith in yourself, you know you are gorgeous and can attract the Nice Guy. You'll know him when you see him. Great smile, no loser pick up lines, won't try and get you drunk or try to grope you and he'll take you out on a date not for a "drive". We know what that means....
So girls. keep this in the back of your mind. And the next time you meet a guy, see which category he fits.
Well Steph, if crappy Dolly-magazine-quiz style categories are what you both need in order to understand the world, then I guess I'll have to work with that.
Your three categories are really two.
1. Guys you don't want (just some of them are better at hiding it)
2. Guys you do want
It baffles me that you claim to want the attention of the latter, but spend so much time hanging around in the natural habitat of the other category.
"I personally would more appreciate honesty, even if it was "Hi, listen I'm just messaging you everyday and telling you you're pretty because I'm in the mood for some action and I thought I might be able to trick you into believing that I actually care about you just so you'll help me out." I would have a lot more respect for guys if they were clearer about their intentions."
You'd RESPECT that!?
I think you just proved the point that girls can't be trusted, if you expect us to believe that you'd actually respect someone for saying that.
Pauly: You have points, except about the me loving the attention. It seriously isn't worth the trouble.
Larry: Yes, sometimes I do talk crap. And I try to be as honest as I can with guys about the way that I feel. But it isn't always black and white.
Bec: I tend to rely more on actions than words, having had many experiences where the two were completely contradictory. I find actions are easier to read. I also try not to assume things and mostly give people the benefit of the doubt.
Carris: I love you. You are the best and you're right. I probably shouldn't be hanging around guys like that. And yeah, I'll admit I enjoy the girlie chats too.
Steffy: I see that our many discussions developing various theories about the male species has been rather invigorating for you. You should start yourself a blog as your wisdom abounds.
Pauly: Back off my best friend boy. She knows what she's talking about. But again you may have a point there.
Trav: I'm going to keep as calm as I can and keeping the comment relevant I will say that yes I would respect a guy for saying that. It doesn't mean I would go along with it but at least he's not a liar or a manipulator.
If it isn't always black and white janelle then how can u expect us to be 'clear' and tell it to u straight then???
Let's just get one thing straight that I'm not too happy about. Yes, a girl would respect a guy for telling it how it is even if what "it is" is not very nice. HOWEVER, just because we hold respect for this guy's honesty (and honesty alone) doesn't mean we go along with him because he told us the truth. We still think he's a MAJOR JERK, we just respect that he was a big enough man to admit it. After which we say, see you later!
It's amazing the amount of controversy that can come out of one tiny little post.
i think that the question of 'showing your intentions' seems to be only bouncing off the guys here, where as it should be off the girls too. if a player is sitting there in a bar or something trying to score for the night and he starts chatting to some chick he doesn't know what her intentions are either, just as she doesn't know what his are. so why doesn't everyone have one of those celebrity heads signs on the head saying what they're looking for. then mr player could see the chick with 'quiet drink' on her head and steer away. problem solved.
or he might see it as a challenge. iono.
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